[Under Construction] Sexual Abuse and Rape (last updated 05/05/16)

This will be the masterpost for information about sexual abuse towards men and boys.

Introduction
Often times issues of male rape, especially cases with female perpetrators, are minimized, mocked, and swept under the rug.
While jokes are made about prison rape, female on male rape is not even given such an indignity: because oftentimes it’s not considered rape at all.
You can find this in headlines which cover recent occurrences of female-teacher on male-student rape: the terms “had sex”, “had an affair”, or “sexually touched” are used instead of the more apt “raped”, “sexually assaulted” or “molested”.
Look at any comments section of the above type of articles and you’ll find various people saying that the boy was “lucky” for being raped, that he must have enjoyed it, how sexually attractive the teacher is, and how they wished it were them. This is despite the knowledge that child sexual abuse, including abuse of teenagers, can result in trauma, PTSD, drug or alcohol abuse, and trouble with future relationships.
This same type of dismissive attitude towards male victims of female perpetrated rape is why men often do not report their rapists. This article additionally says that childhood victims of sexual abuse are more quick, and more likely, to recover from the trauma if they have a supportive adult to help them. But when all too many adults are quick to dismiss what happened if the abuser was female, how many young boys never fully recover or understand what happened to them?

This information becomes all the more chilling when the plight of young boys in juvenile centers comes to light – of the 8.2% of boys who were victims of sexual misconduct from staff 89.1% of them had female perpetrators. This means that 7.3% of boys in juvenile detention centers were victims of female abusers, and because their abuser was female may never get the help they need.

In adults, too, male rape from female rapists is not even given a passing consideration, despite CDC data telling us that equal amounts of men were “forced to penetrate” as women were raped. Even this data tells us that the suffering of men, and the harm caused by their abusers, is being minimized, as the CDC decided to separate the two categories.
This is akin to India, where it is legally so that women cannot rape men – cannot even sexually assault them.
Or consider how often we hear about the child brides of other countries, and yet never hear about the heartbreaking stories of child grooms in Nepal – equally traumatizing and life altering for those it happens to, but is never discussed, never is there outrage for the boys who must forsake their education like their female counterparts do, for the boys who must give up their lives and become fathers at as young as 13 years old.
The voices of male victims are being silenced.

It is not only when the perpetrator is female that men are less likely to speak out (though more often so), and their experiences mocked or ignored.
Consider prison rape, rape in the military, or male on male rape at all. How often is it discussed seriously? How often is it discussed with the intent to find a solution? Almost never.

The first step is awareness.
By visiting this page, you’ve taken the first step. By sharing it, you’ve taken another. By speaking out, you take a third. Supporting male victims, whether their abusers are male or female, teacher or parent, whether they were a boy or a man when it occurred is a fourth. By fighting against discriminatory laws which silence men you take a fifth. The last step, and all of these steps combined, will result in a world where male victims, alongside their female counterparts, can seek justice, peace, and mental well being knowing they will not be let down.

Statistics

(mirror)  CDC 2010: page 28 and 29 for relevant data. Rates of “rape” for women and “made to penetrate” for men equal in “past 12 months”.

(mirror)  National Institute of Justice Report
“Among boys who had experienced sexual assault, 28.2 percent had PTSD at some point in their lives. The rate of lifetime PTSD among boys who had not been sexually assaulted was 5.4 percent.”

(mirror)  2012 Youth BJS Report
This report goes over sexual victimization of youth in juvenile detention centers. The study found that 8.2% of boys were victims of sexual misconduct of the staff, and an additional 2.2% were victims of other inmates. Additionally, of those sexually abused by staff, 89.1% of the perpetrators were women.

(mirror)  BJS Prison Rape/Sexual Assault Statistics
4.8% of men in prison reported being victims of rape or sexual assault (perp: 1.9% other inmate, 2.9% staff), and 3.4% of men in jail reported being victims of rape or sexual assault (1.3% other inmate, 2.1% staff) for a total of 8.2%.

(mirror)  UNICEF estimates that 156 million boys worldwide are married before age 18.
Although child brides are more common, child grooms face the same difficulty, get very little coverage for their plight, and need just as much awareness and help at stopping this practice.

(mirror)  And Boys Too An ECPAT-USA discussion paper about the lack of recognition of the commercial sexual exploitation of boys in the United States
A well sourced paper about 1) Why boys do not come forward, 2) Who is affected and 3) What can be done to better visibility of these invisible victims of sexual exploitation.

(mirror)  MALE SURVIVORS OF SEXUAL ABUSE AND ASSAULT: THEIR EXPERIENCES (Canada)
Research findings on the experiences of men who have been sexually assaulted either as children, or as adults. A significant finding is that men under report and that they experience significant trauma from their experiences.
“Almost all participants spoke of having suffered depression and some suffered from Post traumatic Stress Disorder. Many contemplated and attempted suicide. Most were distrustful of others and were extremely ashamed of what had happened, feeling guilty as if it were their fault and feeling unworthy of anyone’s love.”
“The police-reported data for 2010 show that males accounted for 12% of sexual assault victims (Levels 1, 2 and 3)” despite the fact that “In 2009, the self-reported sexual assault victimization rate for males was half the rate for females (15 vs. 34 per 1,000)”. This shows that men are vastly under reporting.

Articles

(mirror) Demystifying the Commercial Sexual Exploitation of Boys – Our Forgotten Victims

(mirror)  Confessions of a Serial Rapist

(mirror)  A new study reveals that men are often the victims of sexual assault, and women are often the perpetrators.

(mirror)  CDC on “Why Being Made To Penetrate Isn’t Rape”. Despite “being made to penetrate” qualifying as rape by any common sense standard, the CDC appears to disagree. This lowers the rate of “rape” for men, because rape is only “penetration” by the CDC’s standards, making the statistics quite skewed.

(mirror)  Statutory Rape Victim Forced to Pay Child Support

(mirror)  FEMALE PERPETRATORS & MALE SEXUAL ABUSE VICTIMS: SOCIETY’S BETRAYAL OF BOYS

(mirror)  IF THERE IS NO ERECTION, HOW CAN IT BE SEX? IF THERE IS AN ERECTION, HOW CAN IT BE ABUSE?

(mirror)  Manufacturing female victims, marginalizing vulnerable men

(mirror)  Victims of sex assaults in military are mostly men

(mirror)  Male Rape In India: Breaking The Silence

(mirror)  A Sad Day For Male Rape Victims In India
“Given such, it is unlikely that the “gender neutral” laws would actually be appiedy [sic] to male victims of rape, particularly given the opposition to including women as potential offenders.”

(mirror)  In short, women’s organizations in India do not like that the new ordinance acknowledges that women can and do commit sexual violence against people.

(mirror)  Sexual harassment of male a reality, but remains a taboo

(mirror)  The Sad Hidden Plight of Child Grooms

(mirror)  Nepal’s child grooms suffer in physical, emotional ways

(mirror)  I Was a Child Groom

(mirror)  Married at seven, dad by 13: The child grooms of Nepal

(mirror)  The Hard Truth About Girl-on-Guy Rape

(mirror)  Dads Too Soon: The Child Grooms of Nepal
A multimedia report from CARE about the child grooms of Nepal, and the difficulty they suffer, why their parents marry them so young, and hope in ending the practice.

(mirror)  High Prevalence of Sexual Victimization Detected Among Men; Similar to Prevalence Found Among Women in Many Cases
An article summarizing findings from the CDC, BJS, and FBI findings, and a link to the actual study.

(mirror)  College women rape college men but few men tell

 

[Under Construction] Sexual Abuse and Rape (last updated 05/05/16)

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